Our communication is almost gone to none, he needs a lot a lot of alone time to achieve his career while i am really worried that how much longer i can live like this!!. NeverMo in CA Date: NeverMo in CA Wrote: I've read many of the stories here and I know the religion is toxic. First and most importantly, I see major trust issues in your future if you both think the other is brainwashed. I was going to get engaged to a surgen Indians do go for arranged marriage but my teacher she is married to a doctor asked me if i could manage to sacrifice family time after i get married to a doc. Trust your instincts and your spiritual promptings.
Someone already said it, but unless you are planning on converting, this is a dead end relationship. I prayed about whether to marry this man, and I felt and still feel strongly that it was right for me. Anything she learned about mormonsim, she wanted to learn on her own.
Put that in perspective before you try to equate your struggle to his. And once you are done with those, ask about social issues and where she stands. I'm really glad to hear a few of you have stories of happy interfaith relationships, or leaving the church together, so there's always a chance. You should expect that this will define your relationship with her. It really has been helpful. This woman has already given two full years fully devoted to the institution without question. That's a really sad story.
Whenever you bring something up, they'll say if it's not on lds. She has to decide for herself what she believes, but you can definitely help expose her to new ideas. Don't tiptoe around the issue. I learned, growing up, that very principle, that you HAD to marry a member or your marriage was doomed. If you can live with some auxiliary authority in your life knowing that your wife will, as necessary, bend to its will instead of yours, you'll cross those bridges as you come to them.